Impact. Im always looking at the things in my world that cost me the most time, mental capacity and energy, and what it costs me. Im often looking at the smallest and easiest ways I can make the biggest impact in either giving myself more energy, having a stronger mindset or showing up better. While living a worthy life that feels good might seem like a tall feat, it usually isn't achieved by doing large, grandiose tasks. Often it's made up of small tasks that accumulate to worthwhile results, over time.
Most of you know that my full time job is coaching others to live their unreal lives with Glover U. Part of our mission with Glover U is not only to turn each and everyone of you into top notch business professionals, but to help make sure we aren't sacrificing quality of life to get there. This is a tough balance to achieve, since most goals worth achieving will require an amount of sacrifice to get there.
Today, I want to break it down from an Unreal Life to creating small, unreal moments. Or, at the very least, begin to create space for yourself to be able to realize + recognize what it is you truly want. See, part of the challenge with identifying + determining what an unreal life might look like to you comes from really never having the time or space to freely think about what that would look like for you before. Life happens and we get tied down with obligations coming from every which way, so the idea of actually sitting down and mapping out what an unreal life looks like for you might feel overwhelming or even silly. But here's what we need to remember. An Unreal Life is made up of smaller, unreal days. And unreal days are made up of unreal moments. And, well, unreal moments are made up of unreal choices. So, really, the first thing we need to really do in order to create an unreal life is to hold space for unreal moments in our days.
Again, the idea of holding space for ourselves in our day may seem silly, especially if we are guilty of waking up, grabbing our phones, and reacting to whatever is on the screen or whatever our family needs from us. We are all guilty of not being present to some degree, but how can we create a moment that's just for us?
Here are some of my favorite suggestions on how to create unreal moments in each and every day:
Wake up 15 minutes earlier (or before your family) to enjoy some quiet time by yourself to think, meditate, journal, pray, etc.
Consider starting a journaling habit. If the thought/idea of “what to write about” feels like a job to you, let’s just start with 10 things you’re grateful for daily!
When you’re having your lunch break, actually unplug for 30 minutes. Listen to a podcast you enjoy, read a book that has nothing to do with work. Let yourself actually mentally breathe for a moment.
Carve out some time for physical, movement meditation (aka exercise). When not torturous or painful, exercise can be a great way to meditate and tune out.
Consider “technology free” time where you unplug for the night, and consider implementing this at meal time, too. In short, find pockets of time where you can be more present on exactly what it is you’re doing or who you’re talking to.
Walk. Regardless of the temperature, bundle up, get the blood flowing and breathe in the fresh air for a quick 15 minute reset. You don't need equipment or a gym membership to walk, and walking daily still proves to be one of the easiest and most effective ways to help ensure a healthy life.
Consider a caffeine break. How much caffeine are you consuming on a daily basis? Does that still serve you? If you have been drowning yourself in the venti black coffee for long enough, chances are your adrenals and your blood pressure need a break. Consider cutting down to half-caf beverages or mixing in some tea/water instead of reaching for coffee.
Sleep. What does your evening routine look like? Do you have a consistent bedtime or are you falling asleep in front of Ozarks on the couch? Sleep is the lowest barrier to our physical and mental wellness and making sure we start each day with a full tank is the most foolproof way to have a strong day. Consider adjusting your evening routine to account for a full 8 hours of sleep.
Ask for what you need. Instead of walking on eggshells or trying to be the “easiest” one in a crowd of friends, it's okay to speak up for what you need. Group has dinner plans at 830 and that feels too late for you? Let them know you can make an earlier time. Parents want to come visit on a Sunday but that is your lazy recharge day? Let them know that Saturday works better. You serve no one when you avoid telling others what you need to be your best self.
Food. Audit and consider how you are choosing to fuel your body. Do the choices you make leave you feeling lethargic, foggy and slow? Or do they feel energizing and uplifting? Do not miss this key component of feeling and acting our best, and seek education or help on a program that will help you feel your best, so you can show up your best.
While these suggestions are far from ground breaking and might not sound “unreal” in and of themselves, what we know is that in order for us to have the mental freedom + flexibility to be able to think about and dream of our unreal life, we need to first start creating that space in our day. Soon enough, your morning meditations might transform into business planning sessions for your unreal life. Or the productivity and calmness you find on the other side of “technology free” time might be exactly what you need to love your job again. Remember, a life is made up of years, months and days, and our days are made up of moments that we get to choose. So, in an effort to create a more unreal life, let's start first with finding small ways to make each day that much better.
Candidly, Kate